Your seat opponent starts chatting away, and you’re tired and just want to rest, or you want to work. You’re not up for a conversation, don’t really care about their kids or that their monthly flights and co-brand credit card shows how much they know about the airline and its loyalty program.
So you put on noise cancelling headphones but that doesn’t quite do the trick. Sure, you opt for over the ear rather than ear buds just to make it more blindingly obvious yet somehow it isn’t. You also look down at your phone, which is a universal sign for ‘I’m not paying attention to you.’ But maybe it’s not so universal?
The Washington Post‘s Natalie B. Compton asks about differing views on chit chat with a seat mate, and the proper etiquette surrounding it. The truth is that people aren’t going to follow etiquette and sometimes you need to be a vigilante if you don’t want to talk to a seat mate that doesn’t get the cues.
What are your rules for talking on airplanes?
Are you pro chit chatting with strangers? Should chit chat be banned? When is talking fair game?
— Natalie B. Compton (@NatBCo) March 7, 2023
One TikToker made a video sharing her rather dark hack that gets people not to talk to her.
If you’re ever at a hotel, or I’ve used this on planes as well, where people are next to you and being really loud and rude, and you want to ask them to be quiet, but don’t want to be a [jerk] about it.
If you say to them, “Hey, I’m sorry, could you please quiet down? I have to wake up early for a funeral tomorrow,” every time they immediately feel so bad.
@samiamdean I did this on an airplane these people were so loud and I was like pls I need some sleep #scams #hacks #lifehack #AXERatioChallenge ♬ original sound – Sam❤️🔥💎
Boom. Someone might say “I’m sorry.” But they’re going to leave you in peace. And by the way this works in hotel bars too. For single women it’s a much better strategy than a wedding ring (supposed to signal unavailability) since there are men who literally seek out the ring (since anything that happens won’t entail commitment). Just tell them someone died, and the mood dies with it.
Genius, or poor taste?