Several years ago I wrote about husbands who fly business class while their wives fly coach. The Washington Post‘s relationship columnist has covered the issue, telling a woman whose boyfriend flies up front while he pays for her to fly coach that she should dump him: “His wife sat alone in coach: His epitaph writes itself.”
When only one premium cabin seat is available do you,
- Decide that sitting together is more important, even if it’s less comfortable in back?
- Offer it up to your less frequent flying partner?
- Gladly take it yourself, you earned it?
And for the person left in back that’s resentful, what do they think of their partner that they’d wish for them to sit in coach? Maybe they should ask a flight attendant’s permission to split time in the seat?
A man posted to Reddit and literally got branded an ‘a-hole’ on the site (with flair!) after sharing that he upgraded himself on a 12 hour flight while leaving his wife in economy, and expressed surprised that she was upset by this.
The 25 year old US expat living in Japan said his 24 year old wife was traveling with him to the U.S. for a month and they’d booked seats together. He spent miles for his own upgrade. He asked if he was being a jerk and the internet said yes.
I told her that and she got upset because she thinks I chose business class over her and that’s rude apparently. I said to her that she’s just jealous (in a teasing joking way) and she got upset and told me to ask the airline to see if I can switch my seat back to economy.
I said hell no because I’m not going to miss my opportunity to sit in business class (which looks amazing btw, look up ANA the room). In my eyes, it’s just a 12 hour flight and it doesn’t matter if I sit next to my wife or not.
He defends himself saying these were his miles and also that he couldn’t upgrade her with him (presumably that only one upgrade seat was available).
Sometimes couples just don’t like each other that much and being in separate cabins is a great way to stay together. Slate‘s “Dear Prudence” column staked out a totally different position than past advice columns on what to do when only one person gets the upgrade.
- Husband and wife are both elites
- There’s often only one upgrade seat available, it goes to the husband and he takes it
- The wife doesn’t want the upgrade – she wants them to both sit together regardless of cabin
Prudie’s advice: when upgrades are offered, you take them. And if only one upgrade is available, it goes to the person that was upgraded.