I’ve been together with my wife for almost 20 years. But from what I can remember of my dating life, I was metarational enough to realize that if a woman I’d just met invited me up to her room after just 30 minutes in the lobby of a Hyatt Regency, in the morning without any alcohol involved, we weren’t going there for the reason I hoped we were going there.
Not everyone is so self-aware: Selena Rivera-Apodaca has been arrested for armed robbery after taking a man up to her room at the Hyatt Regency Boston. The two had met through a dating app, and she invited him to the hotel Tuesday morning.
At around 11 a.m. they met in the lobby before making their way upstairs. They ‘spoke’ for half an hour before she “pulled out a taser and started to go through his pockets.” Apparently she found “more than $100” there. He escaped the room, notified hotel security, and they called the police at 11:50 a.m..
Credit: Hyatt Regency Boston
When police arrived at the property the woman was still in her room. She claimed not to know the man, ignored further questioning and began Facetiming with a friend. She had no good explanation, though, for how a supposed total stranger would correctly predict the pink taser in her luggage.
Maybe expecting a better outcome is rational for some people, and I just wasn’t good looking enough to expect it. Perhaps the false sense of confidence so many and project has evolutionary advantages. I still think self-deception is dangerous here, and Ms. Rivera-Apodaca would seem to underscore the point.