A passenger on a Southwest flight from Dallas Love Field to New York notices a young soldier in uniform looking anxious. The solder tells a flight attendant he’s deploying for the first time. The attendant makes an announcement inviting passengers to write him encouraging notes and pass them forward. And the story goes viral.
The plane spontaneously participates using napkins, receipts, and torn pages, until the soldier has a thick stack of messages. He tears up, carefully packs away every note, and thanks the flight attendant.
The passenger sharing the story ends with a “freedom isn’t abstract once you meet the kid defending it” moral. And people absolutely love this story:
I was flying Southwest from Dallas to New York. Three rows ahead of me, there was a young soldier in uniform. He looked barely 18. He was staring straight ahead, gripping the armrests. He looked nervous. When the drink cart came around, the flight attendant asked him what he wanted. ‘Coke, please,’ he said. ‘Heading home?’ she asked kindly. ‘No, ma’am,’ he said. ‘Deploying. First time.’ The whole row went quiet. The flight attendant didn’t say a word. she handed him his Coke. Then, she got on the PA system. ‘Ladies and gentlemen, we have a very special guest in Row 8 today. Private Miller is on his first deployment to serve our country. Since I can’t buy him a drink, I’m going to ask a favor. If you want to write him a note of encouragement, pass it forward.’ I grabbed a napkin. I wrote: ‘You got this. Stay safe. – A dad from Row 12.’ I watched as napkins traveled up the aisle. Napkins, receipts, pages torn from books. By the time we landed, the soldier had a pile of paper on his tray table three inches high. He stood up to get his bag, and he was wiping his eyes. He carefully packed every single scrap of paper into his rucksack. ‘Thank you,’ he told the flight attendant. ‘No,’ she said. ‘Thank you.’ We all walked off that plane a little quieter, reminded that freedom is just a word until you meet the kid who is defending it.
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I was flying Southwest from Dallas to New York. Three rows ahead of me, there was a young soldier in uniform. He looked barely 18. He was staring straight ahead, gripping the armrests. He looked nervous. When the drink cart came around, the flight attendant asked him…
— Crazy Vibes (@CrazyVibes_1) January 6, 2026
Of course, Southwest doesn’t serve drinks off of carts. And no specific flight is mentioned. Cinematic staging and perfect beats. The soldier is “barely 18,” they’re gripping armrests, staring ahead, then there’s a quiet row of passengers. Then a flawless PA announcement.
Flight attendants can comp non-alcoholic drinks, give snack boxes, etc. The flight attendant suggested writing notes “Since I can’t buy him a drink”…? Even the soldier’s name, Private Miller, is generic.
Yet people seem to love this flight story anyway, because writing a note is easy and non-controversial, and seems like a safe, low-cost way to be kind. The story expresses a moment of communal meaning. There’s a sympathetic protagonist. It restores moral order in a way that Secretary Duffy’s ‘Golden Age of Travel Starts With You’ can’t.
And yet I’m always torn about these things myself. Just like I feel a bit weird about military pre-boarding. I get they need to travel with their carry-on bags (so does everyone else).
To be sure, taking a military job can involve real sacrifice. At the same time, describing it as pure selflessness is often feels like propaganda. And a lot of deployments are alliance signaling; logistics and support; training; and interventions that seemingly have little to do with national defense. They aren’t necessarily defending freedom. (Not to mention that many roles are non-combat.)
So I think I read this story simultanesouly as (1) a scared 18-year-old heading into the unknown deserves kindness, and (2) that kindness toward individuals doesn’t validate every deployment, every war, or the idea that they’re always and everywhere defending freedom.
@Gary –> (1) Early boarding is a courtesy, a little touch — something tangible — by the airline to say “Thank you.”
(2) You write that “a lot of deployments are alliance signaling; logistics and support; training; and interventions that seemingly have little to do with national defense. They aren’t necessarily defending freedom. (Not to mention that many roles are non-combat.)” Yet while many jobs in the military are indeed in non-combat (e.g.: clerk-typist, cook, mechanic, etc.), a) these too are essential, and b) they “free up” other soldiers to serve in combat roles. Just because you work in the motor pool doesn’t mean you won’t endure a mortar attack or run over an IED on the road…
I am old enough to have been born in the last year that individuals were drafted and shipped off to Vietnam. And while I didn’t have bone spurs, I filed for every deferment possible — and some that weren’t — not to go. (In the end, my lottery number was high enough that I needn’t have worried.) But I never made a distinction — and still don’t — between someone serving actually *in* a combat role (say, a rifleman on patrol in the highlands), versus serving as a forklift driver on the docks at the Oakland Army base loading ships. ALL were serving their country, and I respected them for that. (It was the policy, the politicians, and the generals that I opposed, not the individual soldiers themselves.)
It’s not that I don’t appreciate what a young person emotionally goes through if they’re being deployed to a combat zone, whether they will be in combat or not. But our military has been all volunteer since 1973. There are benefits and opportunities to going into the military, as opposed to taking on tens of thousands in student loan debt for a degree that may never payoff. But that’s the risk you assume-you may be deployed to a combat zone.
Now if the US would get of the business of nation building, policing the world and taking out evil people these young people would be far less exposed to potential combat. Maybe take a look at removing all the corrupt, evil politicians we have here. Minnesota case in point.
Unclear if the guy is scared of combat that lies ahead or that he’s just scared of flying.
Some of us fight a war in our heads. Maybe it’s insane jealousy and wanting to punish someone rich with high taxes? Maybe it’s a war against dark skinned people and our racism? Maybe it’s a smug feeling against those lice that lack frequent flyer elite status?
The unknown is tough, never know what is next, a lot of young service members at that age never left their hometown.
My blessing go out to him.
Umm… “deploying” … TO WHERE?? Greenland? (Did he have a parka?)
I am surprised some liberal college kid wearing a Jewish star and a “Free Palestine” button didn’t write “go die, you baby killer.”
This kitschy sh*t is part of why I hate flying Southwest.
@ Jason….well stated.
@Disgruntled American — Are you, like, okay?
Your commentary on the reason for deploying, for which none of us have any idea, is shockingly ignorant and unnecessary. Why would you use the story of a young service member to disparage his or anyone’s military service? Serving is service, regardless of where and how. With over 28 years of my own I can tell you we don’t get to choose. What could be your motivation other than jealousy or offering more worthless political commentary, on a travel site? If you want the benefits, make the decision to raise your right hand. Next time maybe just publish the story and save your “expertise” for travel, it is clearly not understanding and respecting military service. Comparing this young man’s service to your none is incomprehendable. You lost a lot of credability on this one Gary.
Story seems fictional to me. Why share it if you think so too Gary Leff?
Great story!! Thank you for sharing!! My son is a Marine Corps Infantry Officer. He tells me that the vast majority of people he encounters thru his travels are supportive of the United States Military. I know that young soldier will carry that experience with him thru his lifetime.
AI slop meets AI slop. Should I have AI write this comment?
Weird write up. Greg R said it well in the comment above. I encourage you to take a moment and consider if this is aligned with the brand you desire for your site.
@Greg R “Why would you use the story of a young service member to disparage his or anyone’s military service? ”
No one is being disparaged. First, the person in this story is clearly fictional! Second they aren’t being criticized…
Misery loves company
When did Southwest Airlines begin using Drink Carts?
@American – “Of course, Southwest doesn’t serve drinks off of carts.”
@ Gary “Of course, Southwest doesn’t serve drinks off of carts.” And for that reason alone it makes the story fiction? Falsus in uno falsus in omnibus?
@Gary. Not naming the service mamber or if fictional doesn’t matter. You disparaged all service members when you question both the value and honor in it, including if it deserves pre-boarding. I’ll say it again since you didn’t hear the first time. Service is service. It’s not for you or anyone else to question. Question the political decision makers all you want, preferably not on a travel page. Creating a fictional story only to express your political opinions only makes it worse. You are wrong Gary. Own it and move on as I will from this page after your exposed your character. Your quibbling responces only makes it worse.