A Brazilian model with roughly 2.5 million Instagram followers says her three‑month relationship hit a brick wall over airline tickets. The problem was she’s business class (but not in the Swingers sense, or maybe?).
They planned a romatic first trip together: São Paulo to Paris. They were each paying separately. She booked business class because “comfort mattered” and “she’s always traveled that way.” He chose economy, because business was “unnecessary.”
- Then things unraveled. He allegedly grew distant after her purchase—making what she describes as “passive‑aggressive comments,” accusing her of creating a “lack of unity.”
- She countered: “He wanted me to shrink myself to fit his reality,” and felt guilty for choosing comfort independently.
He tried to make me feel guilty for choosing something better for myself, it felt like he couldn’t handle the fact that I wasn’t depending on him.
Pre‑departure, he pulled the plug. “He broke up with me over the phone,” she says, citing the flight split as evidence they were on “different levels.” She also says money wasn’t the issue—he could have afforded a premium cabin.
I allow myself that luxury when I can — I’ve always traveled that way.
Although honestly her luxury travel Instagramming looks pretty mid.
People are asking, should couples split tickets based on preferences—or is flying together non-negotiable, especially early on?
Now, they could have book premium economy, or taken business for the overnight flight. The one who wanted to spend more could have offered a subsidy.
But the truth is it’s good that this happened, right? The point of dating is to figure out if you’re compatible. Early on it’s often just attraction or spark, but then you start to figure out whether your values align and whether you enjoy each other over the long-term. I suggest thinking about the prospect of a future spouse as a 50-year conversation. Do you want to spend tens of thousands of meals with this person?
Here, the model “trashed” her ex, accusing her ex- of trying to ‘shrink’ her but the truth is they just weren’t aligned and probably shouldn’t have maintained their relationship. They figured it out before they wasted any more time!
My wife and I can fly short-haul coach. She minds it far less than I do, and I mind it less than I used to after having lost so much weight. I have a basic rubric for how much extra premium cabin travel is worth.
Long haul, though, I don’t want to sit in back which is why miles became such an important part of my life. I used to get upgrades all the time with status. 27 years ago, the first time I flew transcon business class as a mere Mileage Plus Premier, I was hooked. And I started making sure I was always up front, especially on transoceanic flights like visiting family in Australia.
When my wife and I first started dating she had a business trip on the other side of the country. Unbeknownst to her I got her upgraded. She had a decision to make – really, again, about our compatibility – was it creapy that I could access and change her reservation without her knowledge? Or was it awesome that she was flying up front for the first time? She decided awesome and the rest was history.
(HT: One Mile at a Time)
1) immortality is possible within a couple of decades. You could be in for an infinity-year conversation.
2) many people have overly high standards for the partner they want, and that’s why they remain single. The fact is immediate companionship with someone acceptable is far more desirable than holding out indefinitely for someone perfect
3) there’s an extremely high correlation between reading this article all the way down to the comments section and being the kind of man who is undesirable to many women.
For the record, I’m single too.
Happy Fourth of July!
I’ll tell you what P2 and I did; Emirates, 777 purchased business, just 1 points upgrade available each way for First, so P2 got first leg, I got second. Either way, all lie-flat, but, c’mon, 32,500 points for First, we each get to try. I think it was fair, though, if it was gonna be just one of us, I’d give mine away to P2, because that’s what you’re supposed to do if you actually love the other person. Make things better for them!
@Erect — I’m a yuge fan of your…username. On marriage, generally, ‘it depends,’ because ideally it’s a partnership between two equals, but often there is power imbalance, whether economic, by effort, beauty, or some other individual trait between partners. Let people love who they love, regardless, unless it is literally harmful to one or both.
Also, yeah, happy Independence Day; remember, we defeated the British… yay… *fireworks* woo… *boom* take that… *crackle*
How to prove you really love them? DL always upgraded me. At least half the time I swapped seats. An easy way to make the rest of the day (and the next) very enjoyable!
@Hall Decker — This is the way.
No one cares about those two clowns from Sao Paulo. Next!
It’s always a good idea to travel with someone before you commit to marriage. Travel reveals a lot about someone’s personality in so many ways. How they react outside their comfort zone, how they treat strangers and strange customs, etc, etc … You’ll learn more about your potential partner when you’re both in an unfamiliar environment.
If he was head over heels in love with her, he would have made sure he was seated next to her, especially since he had the means to make it happen. Maybe it was a power struggle to see if she would pay for his seat upgrade. I think the situation resolved correctly.
@JL — Bingo! Travel is a great test. Many do not handle it well. If you and yours do, that’s magic. And why stop with one ‘honeymoon,’ like, make every trip its own ‘special’ occasion. Sure, it can’t always be Maui, Bora Bora, Maldives, Phuket, or Fiji, but, hey, like, Tulsa’s got… well, umm… hotel(s)? I think… I hope… either way, make the most of it (even if it’s just a Courtyard Marriott off the highway/near the airport.) Make that bed sing!
I suspect the boyfriend was looking for an off-ramp from that relationship and manufactured an opportunity.
A rather elaborate ploy admittedly but maybe a more direct approach would have been an explosive drama-filled incident.
Fugly! I’d have dumped her because she’s so freaking ugly. Maybe play along with her until I got bored.